I recently had a question sent in from a subscriber who had been told by another trainer that she humanised her dogs too much and it was causing issues with jealousy and fighting. She asked, could this really be the case?
Apart from her specific situation, I thought the topic of humanising our dogs deserved a post of its own.
The, “furkids,” phenomenon. People aren’t content to just call a dog a dog and a cat a cat. It has to be more of a statement that the pet is a member of the family. And of course pets are and should be considered family members. But something about the furkids term makes me cringe – perhaps because I’m not a kid person, but dogs are not children.
Personally, my husband and I choose to have dogs instead of kids. Our dogs mean a lot to us and are definitely much loved members of the family. They’re even what you might consider spoiled – they’re treated very well. They sleep inside, we spend a lot on their food to make sure they have the best diet and health possible. They get nice toys and treats. We cuddle them on the couch. We spend lots of time with them. But we appreciate that they are dogs and that’s what makes them awesome. Even though we have dogs and not children, we don’t pretend that the dogs are children. To me they’re even better because I prefer dogs to kids.
But what’s the harm? Does it really matter if you call your dog a furkid? Not really. What matters is how you treat them. And I tend to see a correlation between people that call their dogs furry children, and people who administer inappropriate care-giving which leads to a lack of control and structure which disrupts balance in the relationship. This is where the the real problem lies. It’s not that the owner is parenting their dog like a child, but that their parenting techniques are inappropriate, and probably would be the same if they parented a human child in the same way, causing similar types of issues.
If you raise your kids with rules and structure, raise your dogs with those similarities and they’ll thrive.
Although dogs have different needs to human children, there are also key similarities to what they need from you as the pet-parent. Your dog needs species appropriate stimulation, and exercise, but similarly to kids they need education and rules . Respecting their instinctual needs keeps them balanced and happy. While you might think that spoiling a dog makes them happier, often the case is the opposite, with overly spoiled dogs developing anxiety issues because they are being treated like something they are not.
Affection is not a solution to behaviour problems and in fact can make matters worse. Significant problems occur when humans substitute love and affection for everything else the dog needs. This creates the imbalance. Usually stemming from laziness, humans force the dogs to live like them, spending all their time together on the couch watching Netflix after the dog has waited all day for them to return home from work, instead of providing any mental stimulation, training and exercise.
Some dogs are expected to deal with heavy human emotions, used as coping mechanisms for our problems – they didn’t sign up for that. And this happens because we love them, but we are using human ways of showing it. Sometimes love means putting the needs of others before ourselves, and dogs need love, and to be treated like dogs. Well treated dogs for sure, but still respected as canines with canine psychology.
What Does It Mean To Humanise A Dog?
I don’t intend to say that you can’t treat your dogs well, give them lots of love and affection and have them sleep inside. So what’s the difference between a well-treated dog and a dog that is being overly humanised?
Here’s some common ways that people humanise their dogs:
Assuming The Dog Experiences Human Emotions
This is the most common way that people humanise their dogs that also has the worst effects to the dog. Assuming a dog is guilty over their actions or that they hold a grudge and act out of spite are two common misconceptions that people believe about their dogs whereas the evidence shows that dogs don’t display these emotions the way that people do.
Using The Dog As An Emotional Punching Bag
Dogs can provide such amazing comfort to people – it’s one of the reasons we’ve bred them to live with us. But if a person is going through emotional problems and is up and down like a roller coaster or uses their dog to cope with serious issues, this can make the dog feel insecure and confused, as this time for a human can be unpredictable and lacking structure.
Treating The Dog As A Replacement Child
Whether someone can’t have children or chooses not to, having a dog instead is often very rewarding. But it’s a different species and treating a dog like a human child will make them anxious and confused. Dressing them up, carrying them in hand bags, putting perfume on them and basically not allowing them to behave like dogs is withholding from them some of life’s greatest pleasures as well as the behaviours that their instincts tell them they should be able to express. For example, dogs get confused when you speak to them too much, and most of them hate being handled the way you typically see when being dressed up.
The Difference Between A Well Treated Dog And An Over Spoiled Dog
Treating dogs well as dogs can sometimes be referred to as spoiling, especially by those who are more used to dogs being outside only and a bit more distant from the family. Inside vs outside is a personal choice, but dogs do want and need to feel included in the family.
However, taking good treatment too far can ruin a dog by causing them major behaviour issues. A dog treated well might be allowed inside, allowed to visit on the bed and furniture, fed a high quality diet, taken out and about often with the owner. This is all good stuff.
So where does it cross the line from a well loved dog to a dog that is being ruined?
Apart from the humanising habits listed earlier, the major cause of anxiety and behaviour issues results from too much freedom.
The dog can get on any piece of furniture or go to any part of the house any time she wants with no structure. She can eat whenever she wants and if she turns her nose up at it, she’s offered something better until she accepts. She might be sitting in a high chair at the table being fed a roast meal from a fork. Or maybe she is having a diet forced onto her because it’s what the owner prefers to eat rather than what a dog is designed to eat.
Many issues I see can be treated with the introduction of more structure and rules into everyday life. Just like with human children, rules, structure and routine helps keep life safe and stable and doesn’t mean any less love is involved.
How To Love Your Dog As A Dog
People are touchy these days and easily get offended over being told to do anything they feel might threaten the special bond they have with their pets. Fortunately, the best way to treat your dog does not involve loving them any less, but respects them more and helps them to be happier.
The human-dog bond began thousands of years ago and has always been special without trying to change the dog into something it’s not.
So here’s my tips on how to love your dog to the moon and back while treating them like the amazing creatures they are… dogs:
Run, Fetch, Swim, Walk
Dogs love to run. Get outside, get fresh air, see the pure joy on their faces as they run. Teach them to come when called and then run around with them too, exercise is good for both of you.
Different breeds may have different needs. What was your dog bred for? Can they experience this or something close to it?
A Healthy Dog’s Diet
Canines eat raw meat and bones. Are you feeding your dog as close to nature as possible?
Dogs Love Leaders
You don’t need to behave like a dog to be a reassuring and caring leader to your dog. But having a boss and knowing that they have a leader that will keep them safe makes dogs feel happy and secure. What does this look like? Make sure your dog listens to you at all times and knows the rules of the house.
Practice Obedience and Structure
The “Nothing In Life Is Free,” principle is where you give your dog a simple command before giving them a life reward, like access through a doorway, or eating their meal. It has nothing to do with who goes through the door first. It has to do with practicing obedience and looking to you as the leader of the house, which gives them that security.
Make Sure They Know Where To Be
Some spaces at home might be free run, like the backyard, other spaces may need more structure. This keeps dogs settled and out of mischief. For example, TV time may mean all the dogs are on their place beds, relaxed and sleeping while everyone else relaxes too. Want to cuddle on the couch? Just make sure you made the decision and invited them up, rather than giving the dog/s the choice ALL the time in where to go and what to do. Dogs feel more secure with a bit of structure.
Fairness And Competition In Multi Dog Households
Just like with children, competition over resources can cause conflicts in multi dog homes. Most often, the previous resource worth fighting over is YOU: access to you, attention from you, affection from you.
Many people try to make things more fair by making the dogs take turn at access to a privilege such as sleeping with the owner on the bed. The problem with this is dogs don’t have the same thought process with seeing that as fair. You might know that you are giving each dog the same allocated time on the bed. But each dog that is missing out at the time could be thinking in their mind that they are just waiting for their moment to fight to win the resource back every single time, causing a continual cycle of competition.
In a case like this, it would be much more fair the treat the dogs the same at the same time – for example, all dogs have to stay on their individual beds until released, and that’s just the way it is.
At the end of the day, all the kids, er, I mean dogs, have to do what they’re told, when they’re told and that makes loving them all the more rewarding for both of you.
Thank you to Daniel from Victorian Dog Training Academy for helping with input for this article.
It makes sense that you can learn dog training online – you can learn just about anything online these days! When I wanted to learn guitar, I learned online. It was way more flexible and convenient that travelling to a guitar teacher and cheaper than hiring someone too. Learning to train your dog online has the same appeal, but like all things, there are pros and cons.
I’ve been training dogs professionally for over 7 years now and I’ve seen and tested many different forms of training someone else’s dog for them. There’s group classes, often the first picture that comes to mind when thinking of getting help with training a dog. There’s board and train, where the trainer takes in your dog at their home or facility, trains it and then hands it back to you. There’s one on one private lessons where the trainer will come to your home and help you right there to address any behaviour problems and teach your dog to be well mannered. And then there’s online training. All of these services have pros and cons for both the dog and the owner.
Should You Use Online Training To Train Your Dog?
Usually people search for help online when they have a problem that is troubling them right now. They’re either looking to see an in person professional or find information online for a DIY approach. Just like any DIY project, the main advantage is saving money and the main disadvantage is that you usually won’t do as good a job as if you hired a pro.
So with that in mind…
What Are The Pros And Cons Of Online Dog Training
The Pros Of Online Dog Training
You’ll Save Money
In most cases, online dog training will cost less than a dog training program provided by an in person trainer. Sometimes by hundreds or thousands of dollars depending on the problem and how much time it needs to be given.
You Don’t Have To Travel
You can train right in the comfort of your own home and nearby surrounds to proof behaviours
It’s On Your Schedule
Eliminate the rush to get home from work, get changed, grab the dog and gear, pack the car and drive to a dog training school. You also don’t have to work in with a set appointment for a trainer coming to your home either.
Pause, Rewind, Repeat
This is one of the big benefits I see to online training programs – usually the lesson is in video form so you can rewatch lessons or parts of lessons if you forget something or it doesn’t stick right away.
Training At Home First Is Easier For Your Dog
Dogs learn best in easy, familiar environments with low distractions first. Learning in a new environment or a group class full of other dogs is incredibly challenging for your dog especially when both of you are learning something new. It’s much more fair to start with the basics in your home and then gradually practice with higher distractions and in new places, when you and your dog are both ready. Don’t forget to practice in new places once your dog is getting it though – you don’t want a dog that only listens at home!
The Cons Of Online Dog Training
You’re On Your Own
Some of the things that make dog training online appealing can also be their downside. You’ll need to keep yourself accountable to practice and keep training up with your dog (your dog will love training and appreciate this!)
A lot of your training success will depend on your ability to take new information and apply it to your unique situation without the watchful eye of a professional to make sure you’re not making mistakes without realising it. You need to be adaptable and use common sense with how you apply what you learn because while the learning theory is always the same….
Every Dog Is Different
We say this a lot in dog training. There’s science involved which stays the same but you’ll always have a different dog and different situation in front of you and you need to be able to adapt your training to how that individual animal is behaving. Sometimes they throw you a curveball! To help with this, make sure any dog training courses you choose online allow you access to ask for help from the trainer on any individual variances. For example, in my Dog Matters Academy, we have a Facebook group to support our VIP members.
There’s A Lot Of Bad Advice Out There
Once you have the right online dog trainer to help you, things should improve for you and your dog. But finding the right one? Not so easy! Unfortunately there’s a lot of inconsistent, contradictory or downright terrible advice out there when it comes to training dogs. Make sure you choose someone that shows results and has testimonials to support this. Also ensure they are really a dog trainer and not someone just trying to cash in on the huge and over saturated pet market.
Not Every Issue Can Be Helped Without Seeing The Dog
Again, every dog and every behaviour case is different. There are some behaviour cases that shouldn’t be treated DIY style and need a professional in right away, such as serious aggression towards humans or animals. What I can tell you is that obedience and manners training can be learned online and helps with every situation if done correctly. For example, you may have a professional trainer working directly with you and you can improve your at home results by supplementing training with some online video lessons to refer back to. Just ensure that the online training is by the same trainer or approved by them so that all methods are kept consistent.
Could Your Dog Benefit From Some Training?
It’s amazing how much some small and simple changes to the way you live and interact with your dog can make a difference to their behaviour and happiness. Dogs thrive on routine and clear boundaries and training helps with that and increases the bond between you too.
If your dog needs to brush up on their manners and obedience, or if they’re struggling with a behaviour problem like pulling on the leash or barking and lunging at other dogs on walks, training will improve this and enrich your dog’s life. Training provides amazing mental stimulation! If you want to learn how to unleash your inner trainer and provide more clarity in your dog’s life so you can enjoy them more, I invite you to check out the Dog Matters Academy. We have balanced training that can give you direction with new pups and adult dogs of any age or breed and courses that can help you with obedience and manners or problems such as barking and lunging towards dogs on walks.
You can start with a free account including free downloadable guides and see samples of our full courses. Get started here and I’ll show you how online dog training can help you and your dog.
The Importance Of Mental Stimulation For Pets
These days, everyone is busy. This means that many dogs spend a lot of time at home in the house or yard with not a lot to do. Yet at the same time, our dogs have often been bred to work and use their amazing brains to do jobs for us. Like people, exercising the brain can help a dog to feel tired, even more than physical exercise. It’s important to leave your dog with things to do when you’re gone but also very important for a dog’s health and wellbeing to spend time exercising their brain when you’re home. This doesn’t have to take up a great deal of time – in fact dogs learn best with several short training sessions rather than one long one.
Brain Boosting Games For Your Dog
Wouldn’t it be great if your dog could find your keys or your mobile phone? This trick provides great mental stimulation and is useful for you around the house as well. When a dogs search for an item, they use their amazing power of scent. Having a dog use their sense of smell is a great way to exercise their brains and keep them tired and happy.
You don’t need to teach your dog to use their nose, they already know that. You just need to teach them the object you want them to find and show them that it’s worthwhile to find it.
Here are the steps:
▪ Show them the object you want them to find – you might want to give it a unique name for later when you expand to more items. Let’s say you’re teaching your dog to find the keys. Show them the keys and when they look at them, sniff them or touch them, say, “yes,” and give a treat (or any reward that motivates your dog)
▪ Place the keys on the ground and mark with, “yes,” and reward for the dog sniffing them on the floor
▪ Keep moving the keys around different places of the room and continue to reward for your desired outcome – this could be just sniffing them or picking them up. Reward for small steps towards your end goal
▪ At this point, put a command to the task like, “find keys!”
▪ When your dog is consistently giving you the reaction you want, start to hide the keys where they can’t be seen. This will encourage your dog to use it’s nose.
▪ Gradually increase the difficulty of the location as long as your dog is winning. If they are struggling, take a step back to where they were last successful and practice some more
If your dog knows how to fetch, you can start giving each individual object it’s own name. This is an impressive trick when you work your way up to several objects and is a great brain challenging game for your dog. You can combine this game with the Find It game to have your dog fetch different objects by name using their nose. But you should have each one going well separately first before tying it together.
Here’s the steps to name your objects for the dog to fetch:
▪ Choose the first object you want to name. Let’s say it’s a stuffed bear.
▪ Place the bear on the ground and say, “bear,” followed by your dog’s usual fetch command.
▪ Reward your dog for fetching the bear. Practice this several times and then try dropping the fetch command so you are just saying, “bear”
▪ Once your dog is fetching the bear on command, place the bear on the ground again as usual but this time, place a second object on the ground as well. Let’s say it’s a toy sheep.
▪ Test the bear command and only reward your dog if he sticks with the bear. If he gets it wrong, he won’t get his usual reward. If he gets it right, throw a party! Your dog can now fetch the “bear” item by name. Add more items around it to proof the “bear” command.
▪ Repeat this process with the sheep on it’s own and any other objects you want to name.
▪ The real test is when you have trained multiple items and you put them all down together. See if your dog can remember which one is which and only fetch that toy on command.
▪ Remember like all training, if your dog is stuck, take a step back to where he last succeeded.
Hide and Seek
Another task to encourage your dog to use her nose is hide and seek, where your dog has to find you! Make sure you have their favourite reward for them ready for when they do.
This trick uses the dog’s sense of smell, exercises their brain and gives them exercise as well. It can be easier with two people but you can do it alone if your dog can hold a reliable stay.
▪ Have your dog stay or have a friend hold your dog with them in another room
▪ Go and hide. Make the first few easy
▪ If you have a friend helping, they can say, “seek,” and let the dog go.
▪ The first few times, you may need to also call your dog once or twice to show them that they need to find you and give them a bit of help
▪ When they find you, give them a big reward!
▪ Make it slightly harder each time but always keep it fun. Ways to make it harder is to hide inside cupboards, behind doors or go outside and try it in a safe outdoor area.
Tidy Up Your Toys
Wouldn’t it be great if your dog tidied up all their toys when they were done playing? Combine this trick with the object discrimination trick for a super advanced version and blow your friend’s away with how smart your dog is. Your dog needs to know how to fetch for this trick. Be prepared for your dog to be nice and tired after a session of training this helpful trick.
▪ Start with just one of your dog’s toys on the ground and a basket to put the toys in
▪ Stand with the basket in front of you and give your dog the fetch command for that object
▪ Hold your open hand above the basket
▪ As your dog brings the object to your hand or goes to drop the object at your feet, hold a treat above the basket. As your dog goes to take the treat, the toy will fall into the basket. Mark (“yes”) and reward your dog when this happens and give lots of praise.
▪ Repeat multiple times until your dog is reliably dropping the item into the basket
▪ As your dog is successful, stand behind the basket and point to the basket as the dog approaches. Reward after the dog has dropped the toy inside.
▪ Now you can introduce a new cue to this task. To do this, say the new cue right before the old cue and then phase out the old cue. So say, “tidy up, fetch” and then reward as usual. After a few repetitions, try saying, “tidy up,” by itself and see if your dog understands.
▪ Gradually move further away and reward less often by asking for more toys to be tidied up before you give a treat.
Is it important to keep providing mental stimulation for dogs at any age?
It’s absolutely important to provide mental stimulation for a dog of any age, even an older dog. An older dog may tire faster but they will still enjoy it and appreciate you for it.
In fact, mental and environmental enrichment is important for all animals!
Consider: Do you have another pet that may be bored?
Young puppies need mental stimulation too and the younger you start, the faster your dog will learn things you want to teach them later on. Ins saying that, you can definitely teach an old dog new tricks! Like elderly dogs, pups may tire quicker so keep sessions short and fun.
Training these kind of challenging tricks not only helps your dog to get tired and satisfied, it also continues to make them smarter as they develop their skills and learn how to learn. And best of all, giving your dog mental stimulation through training increases the bond between you. So it’s a win-win for everyone involved.
We want to teach the emus to lay down on cue. With dogs we usually lure them down to the ground with food. But it’s a lot trickier to get the emus into position this way.
Being in a vulnerable position, the emus would jump up and move away if people approached them while laying down. Through their increased handling through training they have been improving with their confidence and have been better with this, but we would love to get the down position on cue.
We tried luring and a little physical guidance and we would also capture it when they did it naturally but this was slow going. Then I was told that they love to have a bath and get on the ground. So that was our best shot to get them laying down near us voluntarily.
Trainers have also used this tactic to get horses to lie down and capture it with a reward as well.
It’s a great example of using creativity and natural behaviours during training.
You can see in these clips that I’m trying a variety of techniques such as some luring, but mainly capturing the behaviour by marking it when it occurs, and creating the behaviour by hosing them, knowing that they naturally love to lay down in the puddles.
Emus do this to cool down and their legs regulate their temperature so they like to lay in the cool water as well as enjoy the mist from the hose.
The main challenge we now face is to try and separate them for training so that we can communicate more clearly to each individual, as Apple needs more training but Jimmy hogs the rewards if he is nearby. Training multiples of any species can present this challenge so training individually to start is preferred.
This was the first time we have done this with Jimmy and Apple, and we are happy with this start because the fact that they lay down and allow us near and take rewards is a great improvement.
Plus some of their antics were quite comical. Enjoy the video below.