Realistic expectations with baby puppies

Imagine this: a young girl tells her parents that she would like to take up figure skating and they sign her up for classes.

At the first class, she wobbles and falls a few times but by the end of the class she is skating from one end of the rink to the other without grabbing the sides or falling.

She is stoked with herself! “Did you see me mum and dad? That was so fun!”

Her parents sigh. They look at her with a face full of disappointment. They tell her, “we were watching and you fell twice. You only skated in a straight line and you didn’t do a single spin. You didn’t even try skating on one foot. What kind of figure skater are you?”

Holy crap right? Wouldn’t that be horrible?

Everyone knows that it takes time and practice to learn a new skill for a child. It’s the same with a puppy.

They aren’t born knowing a single word of English and what we want from them. It’s up to us to teach them what we want and to practice in many different environments before we can expect them to just do it.

If your dog isn’t listening to a command, check first – have we spent purposeful training time on this, or are we expecting them to just know it?

For help with how to do this, visit the Dog Matters Academy and join the Virtual Dog School program.

Owned dogs all my life

Owned dogs all my life

Is owning dogs all your life enough to know how to train them effectively?

I’ve had a vagina all my life, but that doesn’t make a gynecologist.

But what is it that sets apart someone who has a lot of time around dogs and a great love for them, and someone who can create effective change in behaviour to reach goals in not just their own dogs, but others?

I have seen trainers who appear to be total naturals.

I actually don’t feel like fit that category. People sometimes say now that I am a natural or some kind of dog whisperer, but I feel I had to work for that, it didn’t just happen easily.

In my case I studied a course that gained me a qualification on paper. That’s nice to have and it’s important to be educated. But theory and practical application are two entirely different games.

In fact, it can be a dangerous thing to have a lot of book knowledge without practical experience – because you feel confident and empowered by knowing a lot, but if you’re not out there working dogs then not only do you miss out on learning how to apply that theory in reality but you’re also not getting those hard yet valuable lessons where you realise you still have a LOT to learn.

There’s nothing as humbling as getting too relaxed and making a mistake that causes a close call with a dog’s teeth and thinking, “sh*t, do I know anything about training dogs?!”

Like with many things, the key is to acknowledge that you’re always learning, it never stops, and everyone is at different points in their journey – and so are their dogs.

I’m sure we can learn more from each other…

Here’s 4 ways I may be able to help you.

  1. Browse the free lessons in the Dog Matters Academy
  2. Sign up for Academy Premium and take the full training program that will improve any behaviour you’re struggling with with your dog
  3. Read my free ebook, The Good Dog and submit a question for me to answer within the same module area
We’ve tried EVERYTHING

We’ve tried EVERYTHING

Have you already tried everything to solve your frustrations with your dog?

If so, I am sad to say, you are a rare case and it’s time to give up.

I mean, if you’ve already tried everything, what other hope is there?

JUST KIDDING…

Because I know there’s always something else to try, even if it’s doing the same thing you’ve done before but in a slightly different way.

I have been in client’s homes who have, “tried everything.”

They are frustrated and frankly, over it. They’re also usually skeptical, understandably.

But deep down they know there must be something else otherwise I wouldn’t be there.

And the good news is, we always find something to try that they hadn’t thought of before, and that makes progress, and gives hope!

Where might you find a new technique to try?

Here’s 3 things that could help:

  1. Browse the free lessons in the Dog Matters Academy
  2. Sign up for Academy Premium and take the full training program that will improve any behaviour you’re struggling with with your dog
  3. Read my free ebook, The Good Dog and submit a question for me to answer within the same module area

 

Waiting for food

Waiting for food

Does your dog sit and wait for his or he food at dinner time? Awesome work!

As a person who easily gets hangry, I marvel at how well dogs can wait for food.

Because they’re dogs and food is usually a top motivator, we can use feeding time to our advantage for good manners.

From what I’ve observed over the years, here’s some tips to make this skill work to your advantage even better:

  • Make sure your dog doesn’t go for the food until they get a release word
  • Set the rule that your dog has to look at YOU (not stare at the food) to get their release to eat
  • After putting the bowl down, if your dog has mastered waiting, practice a couple of other commands they have to do before released to eat

If you are finding yourself wondering how other people do this and thinking your dog would never wait for their food and would just about crash tackle you to get to the bowl, this is a great opportunity to work on some training that is actually more simple than you might think.

Get started at the Dog Matters Academy to learn the principles to help you teach this and much more:

  1. Browse the free lessons in the Dog Matters Academy
  2. Sign up for Academy Premium and take the full training program that will improve any behaviour you’re struggling with with your dog
  3. Read my free ebook, The Good Dog and submit a question for me to answer within the same module area

 

He’s not a bad dog

He’s not a bad dog

You don’t need to feel ashamed if your dog is behaving badly. I think that’s what causes MANY people to say to me, “he’s not a bad dog,” or, “she’s really a sweet natured girl.”

Of course the reason they are speaking to me is usually because the same dog is showing aggression, destroying property or jumping up on people to the point of hurting them.

What I want people to know is, I KNOW your dog is not a bad dog. It’s okay.

The truth is, good dogs can display bad behaviour.

Of course, what is, “bad,” is a matter of interpretation and preference.

At the same time, if your dog is a danger to you, themselves, or others, the issue needs to be addressed.

Training through behaviour problems is about moving forward and creating positive change.

If you’re feeling like you will be judged when seeking help and it’s stopping you from taking the next step, I want you to know that there are non-judgy trainers (like me) out there and it’s about finding that right fit that you feel comfortable with.

You can also be selective with where you post online. Large free-for-all dog groups aren’t always the safest spaces to seek help without judgement.

The more serious or ingrained the issue, the more likely you will need in person help.

Sometimes though, you might feel like the issue is really bad and super embarrassing, but it might be simpler than you think to address it!

It’s all about taking that first step.

So when you’re ready for that, here’s 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Browse the free lessons in the Dog Matters Academy
  2. Sign up for Academy Premium and take the full training program that will improve any behaviour you’re struggling with with your dog
  3. Read my free ebook, The Good Dog and submit a question for me to answer within the same module area

 

“I just don’t like her”

“I just don’t like her”

Often I meet dogs who show some degree of aggression or reactivity towards other dogs, but it seems random.

It’s only some dogs.

Sometimes we can see that it is only fluffy dogs, flat faced dogs or dogs or a certain breed type.

It’s like a little doggy racist. But at least we can see a pattern.

Other times, it appears much more random.

How can we explain this?

Have you ever met someone at a party or been introduced to a mutual friend and just… not liked them?

Maybe you can’t put your finger on it.

Maybe it’s the look on their face.

Maybe they said something you thought was rude or inappropriate.

Maybe it was me and you are about to unsubscribe…

But sometimes for whatever reason, we just don’t like everyone we meet.

And it’s the same with our dogs.

There is always some reason. But it may not be an obvious one. For example, the other dog might just be a little too energetic and it’s coming off to your dog as offensive.

Perhaps both dogs carry themselves in a dominant way and want to be on top in the relationship as soon as they meet and neither will give in.

Or maybe one day your dog was given the doggy finger by a passing poodle and never forgot that b*tch’s face.

Whatever the reason, the point is that we can’t always predict or control whether our dogs like every other dog.

That’s why it’s so important to train your dog to listen under distraction and to learn to read their body language so that you can at least see how your dog is feeling and know how to intervene.

You can learn a lot about your dog (and them about you) through training together.

It strengthens your bond, improves your communication together and makes them quicker to learn AND makes them tired. Win win win.

To learn more about training so that you and your dog are safer and easier to predict and control in any situation, check out the Dog Matters Academy.

Woofs and wags

Tenille